Originally published June 22, 2020
I was having a conversation with a friend and the topic became a bit awkward. We both started to tiptoe until I said just give me the straight sh*t. From there the conversation eased and flowed. Both of us ended up focusing on what the other would say or how they would feel. But once the focus of the that outcome was taken away, we could carry on.
When you read that title, where did your focus go? What did you feel reading that? Curious, indifferent or something else?
I had a bit of an aha moment over the weekend when I was out by the lake just enjoying a quiet moment reading. No one was around, it was just me and the sky, the mountain in front of me and the sound of the lake’s whispy waves on the shore. Suddenly, a family came out and decided to do some fishing. Okay I can take that, I can share this beautiful environment. Then about another 30 minutes later another family came out and took over the other side of me to do some fishing. I found myself irritated and inconvenienced. I had gone to a great deal of time and effort to find this one remote spot to take some time to be quiet and enjoy some me time.
I heard the young kids squealing with glee at the fish jumping out of the water and actually enjoyed watching them play with the fishing rods. It was then that I thought about my focus. What was I focusing on? I was focusing on what I wasn’t getting, again. It occurred to me then that a lot of what we focus on is the lack of something. Not what we have.
The straight sh*t is I had a beautiful spot and was easily sharing in the space that made others super happy as well as myself. What a gift.
What is it each day that is our point of attraction I wonder? Where is our focus and what do we want to create from that? There are always so many thoughts going through my head, where should I point the focus? I think the point of attraction really is more fluid than we think it is. It is the overarching energy of my collected ideas, active beliefs and my personality. If I were to change any of those ideas or beliefs then that point of attraction (aka focus) would also shift. Denise Jarvie mentions to us “To master yourself means being able to move your view of reality at will. This can help you adjust and adapt to any situation”.
The more I focus on something, the more power I give to it. And that really can be both positive and negative. The great thing about this is that I can choose. I can see how it works or doesn’t work for me, I can feel if it is good for me and I can choose to believe in it or not. Yes, I choose.
Like the old Cherokee tale of Two Wolves. The battle that goes on inside of people. The ‘evil’ or the ‘good’ wolf. The one who has anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other has joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. Which wolf do we feed?
Where do you put your focus? Where is your point of attraction?
Should this change?